Help me find a career! We often hear what’s not possible from our clients, not what is possible or what it is they want. When we hear, “I don’t want to go to school.” “I don’t want to eat my vegetables.” “I don’t want to wear a sweater.” “Why can’t I dress up as a cowgirl 5 days in a row?” (Ok, that one was mine), we develop a very limited view of what work might be.
When you were a child, how many times were you told that what you wanted didn’t matter? You had to go to school, eat your veggies, wear the right clothes, follow the rules, all dictated by the adults in your life… even if you didn’t want to. Thus was born the thought, “I have no choice.” And that thought became so strong, it literally created a neural pathway in your brain that keeps you powerless and often hopeless in your life today.
Now you are an empowered adult with the ability to “help me find a career”! You have the ability to make choices and chart your own course, and yet every day, you innocently make decisions that do not benefit you. They make you sick, sad, and living in a state of suffering, all because you believe you have no choice.
We so often see clients who make decisions to…
- Stay in a job they don’t like
- Work for a boss that is abusive
- Go into work sick when they should be home resting
…all because they believe they have no choice. But this is not true.
There is a law of physics that states that for every one event, there are infinite outcomes. Like white light through a prism that gives an infinite choice of colors, choice is the natural order of the universe. All our suffering comes from clinging to only one outcome.
When you are present and curious, you get to look at those options, at least one or two of them, and then, if it suits you, you get to make different choices. And if that doesn’t work you get to make another. And then another. And then another.
So the next time you think you don’t have a choice, ask yourself, “Is it true there is only one choice?” Allow the light of wisdom to go through you like a prism and explore the other possibilities that are available to you at all times. And then… let your inner wisdom guide you to the choice that feels good and right in your body.
Julie and Sherry love to hear from you so if you have a chance, please post and share examples of seeming to be stuck with only one choice and then suddenly seeing several other options. “Help me find a career”? We’d be glad to!